Why WOMEN love to SUFFER?
Quite bitter to stomach but suffering is our choice after all, so why choose suffering opposed to thriving? For many reasons actually but let's begin with...The CRAVE.
When we're first getting to know someone we crave connection, we deeply feel a desire to find some form of familiarity, something that makes things feel to simply put it like this is the person that is meant for me and or solidifies that they're meant to be apart of your life. 
Unconsciously many of us are unaware these things we seek in another stems from a deeper space, which is really just a need to have someone who feels safe and reliable. It's almost like having something safe and reliable is a little foreign us, & perhaps more than foreign to even more of us. 
You may be asking yourself...what is this Kaypricorn saying right now?
NOW: when it comes to conscious mirroring this is a tactic used by narcissist & those with narcissistic traits. This mirroring is a behavior commonly used by narcissists to gain control, manipulate their victims, and create a false sense of intimacy...... I don't want to veer too far off so I'll elaborate on this on a separate blog sometime in the future.
We want something to be more than it is so we make it that way in our own mind, even the person in front
of us is displaying clear signs of the connection not being equivalent, clear signs that they're just not that invested & not that into you. 
Time me goes on weeks, into months and years and the signs may have gone from being blatant to subtleties on cycle. The first mistake was misreading, overlooking or blatantly ignoring signs, the second mistake was caping reality as a fantasy by creating delusions to live in. 
The insane part about this is as our delusion starts to crumbling we will cling to it! literally cling for the life of us. Then try creating more delusions for why the crumbling in no real or is unnecessary. 
It's important we ask ourselves in moments like this " How safe did I feel as a child? "How many people was I able to count on? and can still count on?"
Frankly.. An alternative side to this is what's trippy about being a human because, if you didn't grow up in an environment that felt safe and stable then, sometimes.. when you land in safety, security, and stability.. it feels so foreign that it feels either uncomfortable or like you can't trust it. So to the former we seek what's comfortable to us but what's comfortable to us is not always the most healthy, it may not be what is most healthy.
I'm saying that if we seek familiarity, something that feels comfortable, from a childhood of feeling unsafe and like there was no reliable person around. Then we can either (of many possibilities) feel unsafe in the ideal place to find safety, stability & security or we can feel safe in the most unideal of circumstances because that level of safety, stability, and security... is quite frankly what we're used to.
Contrary to how much & or what we believe we deserve or not, it's the action that we take and allow of others that truly defines what & or how much we believe we deserve.
I'm not sure how many of us are acquainted to the process of "mirroring" but the concept behind it is basically a habit or behavior where someone imitates your being, including the way you communicate, the manner in which you speak, your attitude, their body language, your gestures, & facial expression and more. Mirroring is something that can be deliberately done "consciously" or "subconsciously" without one's awareness, sometimes mirroring body language is a non-verbal way to show empathy. It signals that we are connected to that person in some way.. almost like a "iykyk." Not to go veer too far off topic but scientifically they call this "limbic synchrony." From an "anima mundi" perspective, being in-sync is vital for survival. Therefore imitation was always present, even babies heartbeats take on the same rhythm as their mothers.
Ok presuming that we all have a grasp of our cravings, where they stem from? & mirroring. Let's dive into the aches. When desire deeply for something sometimes we can completely overlook our reality so much so that this blur of reality can lead to the formulations of your own false reality, creating your own delusion/s. Being that most women join in the same cycles this is usually the beginning.
What is the root of our suffering? Lying to ourself. There is no intuition like a woman's intuition, how about we truly teach ourselves the art of listening from the fundamentals to the master class. We crave, we lie, we cling.
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...... I'll dive a little deeper into this theory over time, consider this an introduction, an observation that has proven itself infront my eyes over an expansive period of time.
.... TO BE CONTINUED....
As a theme song ( I wrote this while listening to) : EYE - (instrumental) by KAYTRAMINÉ
Originally published on March 24, 2024 12:57 AM
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